THE BRAVELY BALANCED BLOG
For the overachiever and the overworked!
How exhausted are you? I know the feeling!
Does being exhausted serve you? What if I told you that you could have it all without subjecting yourself to hustle culture?
Sounds divine, doesn’t it? Follow along and feel the ease!
Category
- Analysis Paralysis
- Anger and Depression
- Anxiety Stress & Fear
- Balance
- Burning the candle
- Burnout
- Change
- Dealing with Urgency
- Doubt
- Drive
- Emotional awareness
- Empowerment
- Empowerment and Living
- Epigenetics
- Expectation
- Faith
- Healing
- Hope
- Inspiration
- Introversion
- Leadership
- Personal Boundaries
- Personal Strengths
- Resilience
- Self-reliance
- Shame
- Trauma
- Victim Mentality
- Vulnerability
- Worry
- avoiding conflict
- balance
- being alone
- conflict resolution
- connection
- decluttering
- duty and guilt
- emotional eating
- empathy
- energy
- feeling stuck
- happiness
- imposter syndrome
- intentions
- justice
- love
- mindfulness
- overeating
- perfection
- perfectionism
The Myth Of Fairness And What We Can Do Instead
I was reminded a few days ago about justice: how much I rely on it; how much many rely on it. Like so many others, my beginning years were difficult. I felt I had to work harder than others to achieve my goals. I sometimes lacked the kind of support that could have helped me avoid many of the mistakes I made.
I often felt hard done by …
Responsibility As A Superpower
I had booked a rental car at the airport of a city I was in for a workshop. After waiting in line for 2 hours, I was told that my drivers’ license was out of date (my birthday happened a week earlier) and they couldn’t rent me anything. Not something I’d anticipated, since I’d had to renew that license for different reasons a year ago. It meant paying for a taxi to my destination, then Lyft-ing back and forth to my workshop until I could get a temporary renewal and a different rental car.
That was expensive and time-consuming. And tiring. …
The Stillpoint Within: A Simple Practice for Calm and Stability
I’m an anxious person, and I work with anxious people. One very powerful skill for an anxious person, or for anyone dealing with any kind of stress, is to find their inner stillpoint.
There’s an exercize I learned along the way a number of years ago. I no longer recall from where, but it is very useful as a way to find and maintain that stillpoint we all have inside us.
Here’s the exercise: …
What If This Is What I Chose?
I don’t know about your life, but in mine, things aren’t going the way I’d like. I want better health than I am experiencing. I want a listing system I’ve relied on for years as a therapist to work again. I want the political climate to be, once again, something I can be proud of.
I want things to be as they were a few short years ago – …
The Freedom Of Focusing On What’s Right In Front Of You
I was listening to a podcast the other day while I was doom-scrolling (yes, I am reduced to doom scrolling, but mostly manage to limit my time doing that). The interviewee (whose name escapes me) suggested that moving towards a goal is futile. For him, as soon as he achieved the goal, he felt less than satisfied. Instead, he suggested a switch in perspective. He suggested a better focus is to do the next right thing, whatever that thing happens to be. That way, he argued, you are always following what is meaningful to you in the moment. …
Mad at the World: Owning Our Anger Without Letting It Own Us
One thing I hear from many people is their anger. It gets expressed in a lot of ways – blaming others, demanding perfection from others, demanding perfection from themselves. It’s rarely expressed directly, so when it is so expressed, I take notice. Last week, a friend, after complaining about the supposed imperfection of someone he just met, suddenly said: In truth, I am just mad at the world!
Well, I am too. …
Why Decisions Need Daylight
I was speaking with a friend the other day about choices: she had a decision to make that was difficult, not only because it was momentous but also because it was emotional. She wanted to talk it over with her friends so that whatever decision she ended up making would be something she could live with.
I’ve done that and always appreciated the clarity I received from simply bringing it to the light of day. I’ve also not done that, making decisions based solely on my own thought processes. Sometimes these ended up being good decisions. Sometimes they led to circumstances I deeply regretted. …
I’m A Thinker, Not Just A Worrier
I worry, as do many of the people I see weekly. I worry about how I’ll be received, how the state of my community will be tomorrow or a month from now, how my practice is doing. I worry about my health and that of my loved ones. There is no lack of things in my world to worry over. …
The Quiet Power of Friendship: Lessons from 2025
I’ve been thinking a lot about what I want for 2026, and also a lot about what I learned in 2025. One thing about 2025 that stands out for me are my friendships: how these friendships deepened my experience of the year in so many ways. …
Thoughts To Begin 2026 By
There were a few times that I began the new year sending you inspirational quotes. This year, with so much chaos and uncertainty, I want to do it again. This blog is a combination of those earlier quote blogs, with a few additions.
I hope these bring you renewed hope, and enjoyment. …
The Help We Love and the Help That Changes Us
This holiday season, most of us need a helping hand – neighbourly help, family support, help around the home, even an unexpected moment of kindness. I’m a therapist, and offer help to others by facilitating mental and emotional growth and happiness.
I also gratefully receive help from others - in so many ways I lose count. But the most important kinds of help I receive are 2: one immediately appreciated and one appreciated only many days or years later. …
Your Shadow Is Not the Problem—It’s the Path to Your Light
In a recent peer review, one of the reviewers remarked at my honesty in my self-assessment. I was with two others being reviewed, and one of them commented on it after the review. That honesty is something that’s grown with experience and age, but also as a result of working with others …
Dream, Release, Reflect: Preparing Your Heart for a New Year
If you’re in the Northern hemisphere, you are quickly approaching the shortest day of the year. It might be dark when you get up and before you’re done with work. I remember as a child in school during the day wondering about that, wishing I could enjoy some sun.
I was speaking with a friend this week, asking her what she was planning over the next few weeks. …
Reclaiming Power, One Choice At A Time
I’m a therapist and coach. In all the work I do with clients, my deepest desire is to support them in re-discovering their power.
In my work, so often I see and hear people identify as victims – abused, cheated, manipulated, taken advantage of. I’ve felt that in my life, worked through it, and want more than anything to see those I work with overcome it too. …
Why A Quiet Mind Changes Everything
I meditate in some form daily. I find it sets my day in a good direction: even if the rest of the day is really difficult, I know it began well, and tomorrow will too.
Most of us know this at least intellectually. And yet, …
When Differences Don’t Divide Us
I was at a gathering with friends a few weeks ago. One member talked about his work situation – how it was dangerous work with many disagreeing politically with one another. He ended by saying: The main thing is, we have each other’s backs and at the end of the day – for that reason – we all get to go home.
That group of workers have all made a conscious decision to be there for each other in a way that matters. …
Faith Isn’t Belief — It’s Movement
I’ve been struggling with something that I’m finding hard to step into; there’s a kind of inner resistance that creeps up whenever I worry about it – whether I’ll measure up.
The advice I receive is to have faith. I was raised Baptist. Faith meant something very specific that was all about accepting religious doctrine with no proof. That never appealed to me, …
The Story That Helped Me Say Yes to Change
This week, I was going to write about something quite different. Then I heard from a friend who is struggling with whether to take a chance and move on. You probably know what that feels like – …
Movement As A Form Of Courage
I read a blog a while ago that made a great point on what grabs our attention. If I’m looking for something I’ll naturally notice anything that changes (moves). On the other hand, if I don’t want to be noticed, I’ll stay still.
This is true …
Will It Improve The Silence?
“When do I speak up? I usually keep quiet because I tell myself that I need to process something first. But am I fooling myself?”
I get this question a lot. I’ve asked myself this question many times. …

