Embracing Solitude

My husband and I were talking about living in very small communities – 100 or less. I’ve lived in such a community when I lived in the Rockies. In that community, people came together for community Bingo night and other such events, but otherwise, we lived there because we enjoyed our solitude.

I’d wake early, take my dogs for a long walk through the woods, then do whatever housework I’d scheduled. Then until 5pm, I’d make my way to a local clay studio and work there as assistant. At exactly 5, everything would stop so we could watch Star Trek. Then I’d go home, make supper, wash up, and go to bed.

Every day. It was peaceful and I was content.

While I recognized my fellow neighbors, I rarely knew anyone’s last name. We would depend on one another when needed for essentials, but that was really all.

How I felt living there is still with me. I’ve learned to look for opportunities that provide that same sense of solitude wherever I live. I’ve never lived in such a small and remote community since that time, but the experience lives inside me, and I cherish it.

Solitude isn’t the same as being alone and feeling lonely. Instead, it’s freeing, relying on oneself for safety, security and adventure. The fact that I was alone most of the time didn’t even occur to me.

Quote of the Week

Solitude is a kind of freedom.

― Umberto Eco

Embracing solitude - Kayla Lok

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