THE BRAVELY BALANCED BLOG
For the overachiever and the overworked!
How exhausted are you? I know the feeling!
Does being exhausted serve you? What if I told you that you could have it all without subjecting yourself to hustle culture?
Sounds divine, doesn’t it? Follow along and feel the ease!
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- Anger and Depression
- Anxiety Stress & Fear
- Balance
- Burning the candle
- Burnout
- Change
- Dealing with Urgency
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- Empowerment and Living
- Epigenetics
- Expectation
- Healing
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- Introversion
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- avoiding conflict
- balance
- being alone
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- connection
- decluttering
- duty and guilt
- emotional eating
- empathy
- energy
- feeling stuck
- happiness
- imposter syndrome
- intentions
- justice
- mindfulness
- overeating
- perfection
- perfectionism
- procrastination
- regret
- resolotions
- self-awareness
- taking risks
- unfairness
Navigating Unfairness: Finding Empowerment In Chaos
My mind and heart have been dwelling on how unsafe the world feels lately. How innocent people are being hurt and that harm is justified by the countries inflicting it. …
From Resolutions To Intentions: A Journey Of Self-Discovery
It’s March already so the typical resolution time has come and gone. But not for me – I do mine on my birthday, which was in February. I also decided a while back to switch from making resolutions to making intentions.
Resolutions, for me, were concrete goals I felt I wanted to attain. They often entailed …
Spice
I like to produce and watch youtube videos. This time of year I see a lot of dieting commercials on youtube. It may be that some of them have merit, but they really aren’t for me and I regularly skip them. I have my own way of dealing with regulating my diet.
Many of us do. But doing so is really hard for lots of us because of these are uncertain times …
You Already Have Everything You Need
What can I do? That’s a question I’m asking myself about my life situation and the (mostly political) chaos around me today. What can I do? So that I can feel like I’m part of the solution in my own life and in my community and not feel helpless.
The answer,…
From Fear To Freedom: Embracing Total Self-Acceptance
I’m a driven woman, and I work with driven women and men. Being driven is a wonderful way to live, if one’s drive is the kind that feeds one’s spirit. It is for many of us. And at least for some, it’s tinged with something that doesn‘t feed the spirit.
If you find yourself worried …
The Power Of A Story
I have a story. Two days ago my purse fell apart. The story of how I chose this purse has its own story, but that isn’t the one I want to tell today. Today I want to tell how I became a purse abuser.
Yes, you read right – I am a purse abuser. After carefully getting the purse that would fulfill all my requirements, it still ended up not being quite adequate.
Navigating The Illusion Of Urgency In Unstable Times
I have written about the topic of urgency probably two or three times over the past few years, and it never seems to be enough. Why? Perhaps because the world seems so unstable right now that everything feels urgent.
If a situation is urgent, it means that it is potentially dangerous and needs to be addressed immediately. That’s the objective view. …
Be Calm, Be Powerful
There is a meditation I was given by 2 colleagues and friends, Victor and Kooch Daniels that helps me whenever I feel anxious, or can’t get a worrying thought out of my head. It’s one of a number of meditations in their book they gifted me Matrix Meditations. I think of it as the 10 times 10 meditation. I’ll share it with you …
Understanding Victim Mentality: How to Reclaim Your Agency
It was rush hour after work. I was on a fully packed bus trying to zone out so that I didn’t feel the push of bodies against me. When I got home, my wallet was missing. I called the police, who suggested I list all documents that were in there and get them replaced immediately. They also said it was very unlikely I’d find that wallet.
That bitter feeling of being victimized took a long time to leave my body. …
You have way more than you think
I decided to clean out my tea cupboard. In it, I found 5 unopened boxes of Bengali Spice tea. It isn’t as if these tea boxes are tiny and easy to miss, but miss them I did, over and over again. The reason I kept not seeing them was not only because my tea cupboard was a mess, but that I was afraid I’n eventually run out – and be without!
As a result, I ended up with this ridiculous overabundance of Bengali Spice tea. …
Setting Intentions
I led a workshop a few years ago on setting intentions. I offered this for a personally selfish reasons: my habit every January would be to look at what I didn’t like about myself and resolve to make changes in concrete ways. I would begin the year carrying those actions out, and they would work until some time in February. Sure, it felt good for a week. Then it became an increasingly burdensome chore until the burden was great enough for me to stop doing them. …
How Inherited Trauma Can Lead To Increased Resilience
January is the season of dieting, especially for those of us who gain weight too easily. This tendency to gain weight runs in families, especially on the female side, and can be due to Epigenetics.
Epigenetics explains how a woman who is pregnant during a famine can pass down an increased capacity to metabolize food to her baby born out of that experience. I am a result of such an experience …
The Transformative Power of Perspective: A Step to the Side
I was with a friend a few weeks ago. We were talking randomly as friends do when suddenly she said seemingly out of the blue about another mutual friend “I hate that man!”.
Have you ever found yourself saying or thinking that about another person? I have. Hate is such a strong word: filled with emotion and anger, maybe also fear. But unless that person has done something seriously bad…
The Best Time is Now: Turning Regret into Resolve
Have you ever regretted doing something, even long after you did it, and can never undo it? Then, not only regret the action, but also the amount of time you spent not doing anything about it. Yes, the best time to have corrected your mistake might be just after it happened, but for any number of reasons, that didn’t happen.
I still remember …
Rethinking Trust in Politics: The Appeal of the Outsider
I hear a lot about why populist-type people are popular and are winning most of the political races just now. I hear a lot about how they relate to those who vote for them, even if the populist in question has never lived in the same circumstances as the person saying this. Some say it’s because the populist feels authentic.
I understand this reason. I
How Failing Can Help You Succeed
I spoke with someone recently who believed he’s failed whenever he finds himself falling into an old, familiar, unproductive pattern. Yes, you could say he failed to move away from the pattern. That’s true. But then we took a closer look.
What he discovered i
Growing Through Tension
I’m in a meeting full of people intent on their own unspoken agendas, vying with each other to get their wants through. If I’m chairing that meeting, I can feel the tension it creates. How successfully I work with it is the measure of my ability to chair.
Emotional Honesty: The Gift of Vulnerability
I watched John Oliver on his weekly show last night. After seeing a few of them, I began to wonder if his desk beating is a way for him to gain energy to a fever pitch that he can then use to energize himself and his audience. I know Tony Robins spends 5 minutes running and jumping in place before presentations to do that. It’s their way of bringing a positive – albeit hyped up - energy with them.
I intentionally bring a calming energy
Beyond Intelligence: The Value of Emotional Awareness
I listened to an interview with David Brooks recently. It was on what he terms elite meritocracy. He was contrasting our current educational system of requiring high mental intelligence with other kinds of living, and finding that our dependence on intelligence as defined by high IQ or SAT scores is not getting us to any sense of collective happiness or fulfillment, …
Finding Balance: Moving Beyond the Worry That Follows Joy
“I just got my dream job, and felt wonderful for about an hour, until I began to dread what bad thing might come on its tail.”
If you’ve never felt this, or heard your friends and family say it and believe it, then you’re not a worrier or associated with worriers.
I’m a worrier, …